“The Secret of Change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the New” – Socrates

Metathesiophobia – A Morbid fear of change.

Fear of change is one of the biggest characteristics in a person and also one of the biggest challenges presented to a person.

What makes us fear change so much?

In reality, fear of change is one of the main reasons that hold us back, stopping us from taking that much required step towards something new.

Fear of change convinces us that the change is bad for you and convinces people to resist the change with all their might.

The high levels of anxiety created by this fear of change can be brought about by false rumours, unnecessary gossip, not knowing what to expect and sometimes sadly purely by malicious vested outside influences. All these can be crippling and could well completely deter us from taking that one essential step towards accepting something new, something which perhaps may well in the long term prove to be a positive change for us.

Not knowing what to expect and the fear that stems from it, is natural, but quite often this fear comes from a sheer lack of knowledge or lack of information.

As humans we are naturally creatures of habit. Routine becomes automatic, becomes second nature and any occurrence that threatens the safety of this routine immediately makes one wary.

The apprehension caused by the prospect of change, something new, the possible loss of control even transitional or worse still the possibility of the change bringing about more work makes us dig our heels in and resist change just for the sake of it.

This is exactly why many people do not like sudden surprises even if they are meant to be pleasant ones. We resent the messengers of change, we suspect their motives, we invest ourselves mentally and physically to finding ways and methods to hold off the change permanently. To retain what is familiar, to retain the existing for fear of the unknown becomes of paramount importance to us.

This is not to say that all change in always good. There are cases in which perhaps the change may not have always been for the best. However what is the parameter by which we decide what is best in life? Is there a tangible quantity or state of things to which we can assign the term “this is the best”. I’m not sure there is.

I question our ability to accept change or to adapt to new situations of late purely because of recent events globally. Unexpected electoral results, unexpected Governmental moves so on and so forth have truly brought out the inner beast in all of us. In some the beast has heartily accepted the new path shown and is willing to tread it trustingly. In some the best accepts the new set of circumstances warily, in some grudgingly while in some the best has reared its ugly second head and is intent upon creating a bubble of discord, distrust and a general climate of unbridled fear among all around them.  Preying upon the latent fears of the innocent igniting them with flames of malice, creating discord with their words, with their negative soothsaying. Majority of these double headed beasts are steaming ahead in their righteous beliefs with little or no view of anything beyond their own myopic blinkered visions of what they want to see. Or rather what they want to hear.

I am angered with the juvenile displays of disrespect shown by such fractions, thinly veiled as humour. I am angered by those wolves in sheep’s clothing who claim to care but their words sadly give them away. I am angered that while the changes that are being brought about certainly come with their own fair share of uncertainties and concerns, we lack the faith, patience or open-mindedness to allow some time for the results to show themselves. Our natural biases prejudiced our good judgement.

At a time when ideally we should be reaching out as communities as humans to each other helping one and other traverse the trying times we instead devote our energies into bringing one and another down.

There are no guarantees of the future, few years down the line we may well look back upon today and wish we had not spent quite so much time resisting rather than accepting. While in life some changes may well be within your control to accept or decline, with some changes there is no way around it. The only way is through it.

So surely the journey can only seem easier if we decide to travel as one in harmony. Surely the need for an individual to prove themselves right cannot be more important than the proposed greater good of many.




I’m stirring the pot with my two cents ….

Kanye West & the Grammys

Really now Kanye!? One would think you would have learnt a thing or two from the back lash you faced years ago when you pulled a similar stunt with Taylor. Again now… thinks someone just wants a little attention no? 

Neil Patrick Harris & his whites on the Oscars

Was it wasn’t it…the big question. He claims no socks were harmed during the making of that sequence! 😉 The truth shall never be known…

 Lupita Nyong’o dress theft

OMG that gorgeous Oscars gown stolen from her hotel room!!! So many questions here….what was hotel security doing? Could this have potentially led to a bigger or worse incident? How does someone walk into a secure room and waltz out with what would have had to been a sizeably large package? To top it all ….the thief returned it!!! Awww…what a star! When he found out that the pearls were fake, he kindly decided to return the ‘timeless piece of art’. You gotta love a happy ending.

Red Carpet fashion

Floor length gowns, beautiful tulles, laces, pearls, satins, cleavages, see through dresses, backless, frontless, cheeky matadors, barely there outfits, itsy bitsy ensembles held together by sheer luck and a bit of tape. Such a display! I wonder if there will come a time when women will arrive completely in the buff for such events and then the Fashion Police can dissect the pros and cons of the Emperor’s New Clothes?

Blue and Black // White and Gold

Which colour is it? Something that has caught everyone’s fancy across the globe. I geddit…something trivial, fun that has caught our curiosity something to talk about something to muse over with your friends. But I also geddit when I see twitter or facebook messages from people who put up a picture of the dress in question next to a blood stained victim of war and ask which dress should we be caring more about?


One year already since the mysterious case of the missing flight MH370. Malaysian authorities still confident that they will ‘find it’. Have the families received any closure, have they been able to move on or are they to be forever caught in a limbo between hope and despair?

Bobbi Kristina Brown

Wealthy only child of world famous parents. Such talent in her genes, such fame her parents knew. Missed opportunities to pass on the talent to the next generation, missed opportunity to share with their child the right lessons in life. Did she have an opportunity to learn from their mistakes or did she never stand a chance? Was this to be her legacy, was this her ultimate destiny? Sleep precious child, wake up strong if it is meant to be.

India’s Daughter

The documentary that has been in the news and the root cause of much hoopla of late. Should it have been made? Should it have been aired? Should the parents have participated? Should the makers have been more sensitive? Should the Indian government ban the documentary in India or should it be aired. So many questions, so many differing opinions, so many debates with powerful arguments made both for and against. Bottom line remains, such a heinous act was undeniably committed, the perpetrators have been jailed, similar such acts have been committed in the past too and somewhere in the world some more sick minds are probably plotting something equally heinous again. The mindset is what needs to be changed, it’s the mental filth that needs to be weeded out to make the world a safer place for the coming generations. It’s going to be an uphill task which each and every member of the society will need to make an effort towards achieving.

Peoples Court

An alleged rapist dragged out of prison, attacked and beaten to death by angry mobs in Assam. While one part of me applauds the unity of the crowd and feels their anger the other part of me asks is this a dangerous line we have just crossed? Where does vigilantism end, breaking the law whatever your justification, should this be punishable?

 What topics would you like to throw into this pot? Share them with me, we could stir up a storm together!

stirring the pot